By sungirl , June 8, in Infidelity. My husband and I have been married for almost 30 years and I found through an email that he had been going for erotic massages when out of town at a certain business to a certain person. He says he only went twice. He says he has never done anything else before and we have a really good relashionship otherwise.
He says that he got a nude on nude massage with happy ending hand job. He could touch the woman and she was touching him with all body parts. I cannot get over this whole thing and have been going to counselling for two months, but not really getting anywhere. Some people men say this is not really cheating, but I feel it is. He said he would have continued if he hadn't been caught. My husband is going for counselling, has quit the job that took him to that city miles away , has cried, apologized, says he will never do it again, spending a lot of time with me.
I think he's doing all he can. I appreciate all of this, but can't seem to move forward even so. It just is so disgusting to me. I asked him how he would feel if I did something like that and he says he can't even imagine it, so he doesn't know. Some people I have told about this think I'm crazy when I mention splitting up, even my counsellor.
They say there are so many positives excellent father, husband except for this , friend, etc , lots in common. I am having a tough time getting through some days though, like wondering who this person really is that I thought I knew so well. He said he was viewing porn a lot and it was suggested by a coworker to try this place. The coworker had been to a specific girl and told my husband how to go about setting it up and what to expect.
This girl would only take referrals from other clients, so that's how it started. He had a prestigous job and he said that he felt like he was a really important guy and lost track of who he really was.
